How to introduce the idea of Home Share to your aging parents

When Anne reached out to Elder Home Share, she was uncertain about how to broach the topic of Elder Home Share with her mum. As our parents grow older, their living arrangements and care needs become pressing concerns. Talking to them about these issues can be sensitive and emotional and on occasion unwelcomed. . Anne knew her mum would not be keen on the idea of a 'stranger' moving into the home. I encouraged her to gently plant the seed and not to push the issue. When our own anxieties get in the way, it really does not help. As the founder of Elder Home Share, I am used to helping families navigate this conversation and understand the challenges that can come up. Below some wisdom on how to introduce the idea and cover some concerns your parent may have.

Understanding Home share

Before discussing home share it's essential to understand its structure. Typically, a younger person usually between the age of 25 and 40 moves into an older adult's home in exchange for offering help with daily tasks like cleaning, cooking, and companionship. At Elder Home Share we carry out a character reference check on the companion when you have chosen a candidate and they have accepted. Garda vetting is available too there is an addition cost for this. The Elder Home Share agreement clearly outlines house rules and expectations too - such as no over night guests and no parties.

According to a study, approximately 40% of older adults experience loneliness. Having someone live with them can help combat this and create a warmer household environment. Mary McStay says  mums companion was caring, trustworthy, friendly and supportive it gave our family much ease and lessening of stress and worry about our mum especially over night.

Assessing Your Parents' Needs

Each family situation is unique, so begin by assessing your parents' specific needs.

Ask important questions about their living situation, health, and emotional well-being. For example:

• Are they feeling isolated or nervous to be in the house on there own at night time?

• Do they need help with daily tasks?

• Are they are risk of a fall?

• Is memory becoming problematic?

  
  

Understanding their unique situation will allow you to present elder home share in a way that resonates with them. letting them know the companion can provide social contact or if preferred stay out of the way if the homeowner would like their won space. Thinking about such things as would you like to share a meal or simply sit and chat about the day over a cup of tea can help to build a positive picture of home life with a home share companion could work - designing the match to suit the nature of your parent is what it is all about. Along with mutual respect and flexibility. To view home share companion profiles click here.

Additionally, discuss their feelings about someone living in their home. Some may feel anxious about sharing their space, while others might be more open to the idea. Listen closely to their concerns and respond with empathy. I am always available to talk to your mum or dad on the phone or call out to the house as part of the onboarding process if that is something your parent would like too.

To make this idea more relatable, share stories from friends or neighbors who have had positive experiences with home share. For instance, a nearby family found a college student to live with their elderly parent, which led to shared meals and companionship, enhancing everyone’s quality of life. Most of the matches Elder Home Share facilitates come in though word of mouth from other people who have used the service.

David Bell and Saoirse Sheridan previous home share match

Addressing Concerns

Your parents may carry misconceptions or fears about home share. Create an open dialogue where they can voice their worries.

Common concerns might revolve around safety, privacy, or disruptions to their routines. It's essential to validate their feelings and provide reassurance. Explain the screening processes used by home share programs and how they prioritize safety and compatibility.

Reassure them that they are in control of their living situation. They can establish rules and set boundaries for the shared space. Emphasizing this collaborative aspect can help ease their worries about losing autonomy. They are also entitled to bring the match to a close and give the home share companion a months notice to move out if they decide Elder Home Share is not for them. I am always available to discuss concerns and provide support.

Highlighting Community Benefits

An important yet often overlooked aspect of home share is the enhancement of community ties. Having a younger person around can rejuvenate your parents' daily lives, encouraging them to stay active and engaged. As a previous home share companion myself I can see how the mood in the house can be lifted by someone coming and going and bringing new life into the house.

Furthermore, with the young person assisting with daily tasks, such as light house work, picking up messages in the shops reminding the homeowner of appointment and commitments the house should run more smoothly. Its also a very affordable option for live in support at home Our Fees.

Planning for the Future

Frame the home share conversation not as an immediate fix but as part of a broader discussion on aging.

Talk about the importance of planning for the future and recognize that their living situation might change. Elder Home share can serve as a practical step toward alternative living options, preparing them for future needs. Infact we should all be thinking and planning for later life.

By taking a proactive approach, you create a supportive environment where your parents feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and concerns. This collaborative strategy helps them maintain agency over their care and lifestyle decisions.

Embracing Change Together

Introducing home share to your aging parents is not the easiest of conversations to have. The goal is to listen actively while presenting home share as a positive option that enhances their quality of life.

By approaching this topic thoughtfully, you can help them understand the benefits of sharing their home. Ultimately, home share can not only provide support but also enrich their lives through meaningful companionship. It is likewise a meaningful experience for the home share companion. If you would like to learn more about Elder Home Share reach out to us today.